http://www.thecalco.org/index.php en scotn23@gmail.com Copyright 2008 2008-06-08T21:13:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/patterns_of_interaction/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/patterns_of_interaction/#When:20:13:00Z Patterns of Interaction     Much like this flower expresses a consistent rich complexity, we to express a similar pattern. There is a theme in parenting, in relationships, and in developmental psychology around this complex pattern being consistent for the formation of healthy interaction.  The theme for this post is object constancy, patterns of interaction and interactive repair.  Interactive repair is a powerful to support bonding in familys and organization.    Object constancy is “the capacity to recognize and tolerate loving and hostile feelings toward the same object; the capacity to keep feelings centered on a specific object; and the capacity to value an object for attributes other than its function of satisfying needs.” from http://www.sonoma.edu/users/d/daniels/objectrelations.html   This is important in the development and creation of a secure sense of self. As children mature, they need constancy to trust the repair-ability of life, with out repair or more specifically interactive repair life can essentially be seen-perceived as a terrifying place. “Its all broken”, “Its hopeless”, I am not enough”, and “the world is unjust.” Fostering hope, inner security, and ambition can be done in every relationship:relationship with self-other-community. Here is what HH Almas says about object constancy:   Object Constancy   The separation-individuation process leads ultimately to the development of the ego as a structure. Its final phase is that of object constancy, when the ego is formed and established as a permanent existence, separate from the environment (mother), and other people are seen to have separate existences. Finally, the ego is structured and developed, and the child permanently experiences himself as having a separate identity. (Essence, pg 160)     Object constancy is usually defined as the capacity to see and relate to the other as a person in his or her own right. This capacity is part of the quality of the Personal Essence, of being personal and able to make direct personal contact. (The Pearl Beyond Price)   Object relations theory contends that object love, which is love for a separate and differentiated human person, does not develop until object constancy is attained. In fact, it is part of the definition of object constancy that when it is achieved the individual has the capacity to love another as an individual in his or her own right. (The Pearl Beyond Price)   from: http://www.ahalmaas.com/glossary/o/object_constancy.htm       So what would this look like in practical action? Regular patterns of interaction are: • Emotional availability • Nurturance/empathy • Protection • Comforting • Teaching • Play • Willingness to repair • Mutual self reflection • Respect of developmental edges   These are only a few that are implicit, but when brought to the for of interaction with all of life, they are elucidated and become explicit. This will support the development of connection, team building, partnerships, social relationships etc. Try some of these out and comment below or feel free to share these with others. Thanks Scot     2008-06-08T20:13:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/intuitive_focusing/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/intuitive_focusing/#When:21:02:00Z INTUITIVE FOCUSING There are several well developed methods that have been seeds off of Eugene T. Gendlin’s work called: FOCUSING He started researching what “really” works in therapy. What he found is that when people get a felt sense, stay with that felt sense, and open to the felt sense that therapy actually works. This is truly a clear and well researched method of maintaining contact with ones bodily experience. The work of Focusing has been applied to many fields: management, listening, relationships, learning, a.d.d, lawyers, and so much more. Its also a great process to do with oneself as a tool to increase intuitive, sensory, intelligence. This is classic Right brain work. The basic method: 1. Clearing a space: Tuning in and listening to your body, just being with what is, breath, feeling of chair, etc. Ask this, settled in space, what is between you and feeling good. Or ask another question that has relevance for you. 2.Felt Sensing: Feeling, slowing, and deep listening. The inner felt sense can be a range of sensations, images, emotions, words. (if you move into left brain thinking and figuring out, drop deeper into slow breath, and deep listening.) 3.Getting a Handle: When you find a “felt sense” that has a lingering, “hey this is it” feeling, open to images, words, or feelings to get a handle of what this piece of felt sensing is about for you. 4.Resonating: Test the image, word, or feeling with your deeper felt sense, is this accurate? 5.Asking: This could also be called searching, or opening, to the newness, or freshness that is emerging out of the resonating theme. Whats next as this intuitive felt sensing emerges? This is a process! 6. Receiving: Stay with the newness, the freshness, and open to recieve the felt sense, listening as your body’s wisdom, the intelligence of being whole, contextualizes the felt sense. Here are some great resources for this work: http://www.focusing.org/ http://www.cefocusing.com/index.php http://www.vegsource.com/biospirituality/main.html Interviews 2008-03-29T21:02:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/intention_and_thoughts/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/intention_and_thoughts/#When:20:51:00Z Thoughts have quite a bit of power. In both Cognitive psychotherapy and in Somatic therapy thoughts can change our physical organization and how we relate to any particular dynamic. Imagine designing learning and transformative events with experientials that put us into direct contact with the power of thought. See below for some of the latest science on thoughts and intention. The Intention Experiment: Results of the first three experiments The Intention Experiment has run six intention experiments so far – with extraordinary results about the power of intention. We’ve demonstrated that intention from a group scattered around the globe can affect living light — in everything from algae and leaves to human beings. see: http://www.theintentionexperiment.com/ also see: http://oneminuteshift.com/videos/lynne_mctaggart_video/can_intention_change_the_world Playground 2008-03-27T20:51:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/embodied_belonging/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/embodied_belonging/#When:20:37:00Z “And as Shakespeare says in Hamlet: To thine own self be true, then as surely as night follows day, thou canst to no man be false. The journey shows you that from this inner dedication you can reconstruct your own values and action. You develop from your own self-compassion a great compassion for others. You are no longer caught in the false game of judgment, comparison and assumption. More naked now than ever, you begin to feel truly alive. You begin to trust the music of your own soul; you have inherited treasure that no one will ever be able to take from you. At the deepest level, this adventure of growth is in fact a transfigurative conversation with your own death. And when the time comes for you to leave, the view from your death bed will show a life of growth that gladdens the heart and takes away all fear.” -John O’Donohue- How do we begin the life of belonging? Belonging to ourselves, our bodies, our earth, our communities, etc.? It is here that we must search, but this journey begins by using a level of experience that we have marginalized, that of the right brain. Its like our collective culture has been ignoring this side of our life for so long that it is not there any more. “The main theme to emerge… is that there appear to be two modes of thinking, verbal and nonverbal, represented rather separately in left and right hemispheres respectively and that our education system, as well as science in general, tends to neglect the nonverbal form of intellect. What it comes down to is that modern society discriminates against the right hemisphere.” -Roger Sperry (1973) from: http://www.viewzone.com/bicam.html How do we begin a journey when we have been mistaking the map for the territory? Thoughts? Questions? Thanks Scot more links: http://www.ted.com/talks/view/id/229 http://www.news.com.au/heraldsun/story/0,21985,22556281-661,00.html http://www.danpink.com/wnm.html 2008-03-27T20:37:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/research_on_love_and_longevity/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/research_on_love_and_longevity/#When:20:29:00Z LOVE: What is the force of love? Are we able to choose brain states? What brain do you live in most of the time? How is it for you to be generous? How do we actually love? Some suggest that its good for your health, check out the following quote and link to learn about research being done on love. Leave comments, thoughts, stories, etc. Thanks Scot “The evidence to be accumulated herein supports the following hypothesis: One of the healthiest things a person can do is to step back from self-preoccupation and self-worry, as well as from hostile and bitter emotions, and there is no more obvious way of doing this than focusing attention on helping others. This transformation of being and of doing seems to promote emotional and physical well-being, and odds are, will add some years to life."Stephen G. Post, Ph.D. Download this article from: http://www.unlimitedloveinstitute.org/publications/goodtobegood.html 2008-03-27T20:29:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/creating_synergic_power_designing_the_future/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/creating_synergic_power_designing_the_future/#When:20:22:00Z The future of our transformation will include a deep education of collaboration and supporting humans through synergy. Like plants need sun to grow, we need a force, an energy, a motivation to grow and develop. The following themes can easily be integrated into designing human gatherings, meetings, classes, conventions, families, schools, and more. How would you use this information? The Driving Force - values and quality of life An Application of Synergic Power: Ten Principles of Human Development 1. The principle of free existence. [choice] 2. The quality of perception principle. [vision] 3. The strength of identity principle. [confidence] 4. The principle of competence. [diversity] 5. The principle of authentic and intense commitment. [participation] 6. The principle of suspension and risk. [courage] 7. The principle of bridging the distance. [mutuality] 8. The principle of self-confirmation and self-transcendence. [respect] 9. The principle of dialectic leading to synergy. [balance] 10. The principle of feedback ordered into complexity. [development] Charles Hampden-Turner, Radical Man, 1971 in N. Arthur Coulter, Human Synergetics, 1976, Chapter 17 from: http://www.calresco.org/wp/synergy.htm Playground 2008-03-27T20:22:00-08:00 http://www.thecalco.org/site/my_stroke_of_insight/ http://www.thecalco.org/site/my_stroke_of_insight/#When:22:46:00Z http://www.ted.com/talks/view/id/229 This video really captures the two functions of our brain.  I have been using this to teach the two experiential functions of the brain and what can occur with the power of training to work in symphony with both brains.  What are your thoughts on this video? Interviews 2008-03-17T22:46:00-08:00